This book was originally written to help married couples improve their communication and their overall relationship; however, after reading into a couple of chapters, I have come to realize that understanding the five love languages can and will enhance (improve) our daily human interactions!
The author describes love as not only obsession of each other ( when we are willing to do anything for the other person ) but love as intensional which we consciously make effort and decide to care for the other person. This love comes after the obsession stage of relationship Which is usually, according to his research, last for the first two years.
Dr. Chapman believes emotional love language is similar to the structure of linguistics ( study of language). When we are born, we develop a native language that we use to communicate with our family members and later in life we develop a secondary language by taking a language class. Yet our primary language comes easy for us to use and we describe the world through those words.
Emotional love language works in a similar way. We all ave a primary emotional love language in which we communicate our feeling towards others. So, if our partners have a different emotional love language it would be as english speaker trying to understand Chinese speaker. You can imagine how difficult that would be. Dr, Chapman asserts that if we want to communicate with someone we care about like family, boy or girlfriend or friends, we have to speak the same language. If we speak different languages it is important to learn each others language.
That is the same with love. I will give you the 5 love languages on my next blog.
i don't really get what you mean by obession, i want to know how you define obsession... more explanation about obsession other that the definition you wrote. Don't you think there has to be a limit to love somebody? i know love it's not something you think but something u feel without thinking or analyzing but do u thing obsession is healthy? i can love somebody to the extreme without being obssesed, can't i? i have a negative pespective on obsession, what i meant by that is i don't agree that obsession have to be the definition for love.
This book was originally written to help married couples improve their communication and their overall relationship; however, after reading into a couple of chapters, I have come to realize that understanding the five love languages can and will enhance (improve) our daily human interactions!
ReplyDeleteThe author describes love as not only obsession of each other ( when we are willing to do anything for the other person ) but love as intensional which we consciously make effort and decide to care for the other person. This love comes after the obsession stage of relationship Which is usually, according to his research, last for the first two years.
Dr. Chapman believes emotional love language is similar to the structure of linguistics ( study of language). When we are born, we develop a native language that we use to communicate with our family members and later in life we develop a secondary language by taking a language class. Yet our primary language comes easy for us to use and we describe the world through those words.
Emotional love language works in a similar way. We all ave a primary emotional love language in which we communicate our feeling towards others. So, if our partners have a different emotional love language it would be as english speaker trying to understand Chinese speaker. You can imagine how difficult that would be. Dr, Chapman asserts that if we want to communicate with someone we care about like family, boy or girlfriend or friends, we have to speak the same language. If we speak different languages it is important to learn each others language.
That is the same with love. I will give you the 5 love languages on my next blog.
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i don't really get what you mean by obession, i want to know how you define obsession... more explanation about obsession other that the definition you wrote. Don't you think there has to be a limit to love somebody? i know love it's not something you think but something u feel without thinking or analyzing but do u thing obsession is healthy? i can love somebody to the extreme without being obssesed, can't i? i have a negative pespective on obsession, what i meant by that is i don't agree that obsession have to be the definition for love.
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